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 Anne-Marie, Site Director |
08-28-2002 @ 9:08 AM |
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What are some of your goals? What would you like to see yourself doing 12 weeks from now? This forum has been designed to get us to picture what we would be doing if we did not have panic.
Posts in this forum should be about “behaviors” and not “thoughts”. For example, you may want to be able to go to the park without feeling anxious, or go shopping, or apply for a job?
This is the place to set your goals for overcoming panic disorder and agoraphobia. What are they?
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| Suzy |
08-30-2002 @ 12:02 AM |
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Anne-Marie. mY GOAL IS to be able to go into a theatre without getting clostrophobic or shopping in a very busy mall without sudddenly panicing and not being able to find my way out. I can only shop for a certain length of time ( get what I need with a list and get out). The rest of my problems seem to be under control, but I am still unable to make a committment to anything without panicing about it after giving my word. Then I feel obligated and that causes me anxiousness....LUV, SUZY. 
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| Beth |
08-30-2002 @ 12:06 AM |
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I agree Suzy, obligation is extremely anxiety-provoking, especially when its brought on by myself!
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| Suzy |
08-30-2002 @ 12:44 AM |
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Beth..isn't it wierd? The simplest of tasks seem overwqhelming at times. A few years ago, I volunteered to make mittens for the street-kids as we were having a very harsh winter here, and I had lots and lots of red flannel. So I phoned the YMCA sho put out a call for them and I responed and said I could make some, but my husband would be delivering them for me.Such a simple thing and to do it in my own home was a good thing. But after I hung up the phone, I had a PA just thinking of what I had done. I committed to something. (and it was such a simple thing). I don't think that the same thing would happen today, but I'm still afraid to make these committments for fear I would panic. Why, of why would I think such a thing. I've been able to accomplish so many things in my life, but something as simple as that, just threw me! I guess thats why its called a Disorder. Will it ever end. So good for so long, and then a little thing can set you off and no answers to be had. Hope you're doidng well otherwise, and having a good summer. ***I remember when my brother was very young and had the Asian flu, lost so much weight overnight. My mom made him milkshakes with an egg added and the canned custard powder you buy at the store, with losts of flavoring and he gained it all back in 17 days. It really werks and doesn't leave that powdery taste in your mouth like some nutrition drinks. Whoever posts about not being able to eat should try this. It really works. Once you can do this for a few days then worry about taking vitamin suppliments as well, but get some weight on first. Hope this helps some. LUV, SUZY.
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| Marianne |
08-30-2002 @ 5:23 AM |
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You guys are right! And I never noticed! Wow! It's the OBLIGATION thing that sets me off as well! I'm perfectly happy doing all kinds of things on the spur of the moment, but as soon as if I've made an arrangement with someone else, or sometimes even myself, the "What if..." train of thought kicks in. "What if I want out?", "What if I get a PA?" etc.
Is this a 'losing control' thing?
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| Anne-Marie, Site Director |
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08-30-2002 @ 9:44 AM |
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Hey wow. You have identified an event and then a 'what if' thought as part of a panic cycle, see?
Don't hesitate to start a discussion in that forum about it, ok?
This message was edited by am on 8-30-02 @ 11:42 AM
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10-25-2002 @ 1:47 PM |
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Hi,Anne-Marie:
Thank you for the opportunity to get help with setting my goals.
Basically, in 12 weeks (and especially for March 19, the day of my next G2 driving exit exam) are:
1) to be able to get up that morning and not feel "sick" with flu-like symptoms;
2) to have full presence of mind re getting ready and getting there. My husband will have to drive me as my licence has expired (5 years) and I will have a licence for that day only (get it at the MOT desk for test only). So this will have to be a real cognitive headspace only training making more difficult to "practice".
3) to be able to "get over" the fear of being evaluated negatively; i.e. to be confident to perform successfully.
4) to not rush through the various tasks in order to "get through this"; i.e., I see my unsuccesful tests (2 prior failures here in Ontario -- got the licence successfully in Quebec in Frency mind you -- not my first language!!! Go figure??)
5) to understand why I am so unsuccessful here and to fix that however. I have read the Ministry of Transport book several times!!!! but continue to forget some stuff -- again do figure as I have been tested and have a very high IQ -- it is like someone else takes over my body and mind and this person is a nimble-brain. It is maddening. I want to fully possess my real self. H E L P!!!!!
and Thanks in Advance "TIA"!!!
JitteryMom
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10-25-2002 @ 1:49 PM |
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going to my evening job now... will check in later or tomorrow.
p.s. will take my panic manual on bus to read!!! Trains don't run on my line at this time. Gads!!! another glitch. 
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| Anne-Marie, Site Director |
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10-25-2002 @ 6:18 PM |
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Hi. If you don't mind, I'll start a new thread just for this, ok?
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| maria d. |
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03-05-2003 @ 5:35 PM |
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my goals are these. i would like to book in for my learner's permit and not feel ashamed, i am 36 and the place will be filled with 16 year olds. i cringe at the thought. i would also like to go to a local support group in my area for social phobia etc i know it will help just have to get myself in the door and not panic. thanks again, maria d.
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| Anne-Marie, Site Director |
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03-05-2003 @ 6:39 PM |
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Maria D., Consider that there are lots of new citizens who have to go through the permit procedure, no matter how old they are. There are older drivers too who have to go to apply for permits and those who go to get new plates, change their address, etc. That you're going for it is cause to be proud, yes? Try to focus on the goal and not who's in the room.
A older friend of mine who suffers from PA went through a driver's ed course. She said she would be quiet in class and would use humor if she had to, but she got through it fine and is now driving.
Add some good "what if's" to your thinking, like what if I meet someone there who will turn out to be a friend? What if they're all really nice?
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03-09-2003 @ 2:43 PM |
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Anne-Marie, My goal is to fight this panic disorder to the very end. I want and have to be medication free within the next month or so because as of March 31st.,2003, we (my hubby and I ) will lose our med. benefits due to the closing and bankruptcy of his former employer. I will no longer be able to afford to buy my meds. and I really think this would be the best time ever to quit taking them. I am terrified of my panic attacks. I am on regular SS disability and have just received my medicare card but it doesn't become effective until June 1,2003. I had 2 major back surgeries in 3 years so I take meds for pain as well and I have acid reflux and take expensive med. for that. Any help I can get will be a godsend! Lori
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| Anne-Marie, Site Director |
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03-09-2003 @ 6:02 PM |
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Hi Lori. It sounds like you are facing a bit of stress. Sometimes when you can't change what's happening, you have to focus on how you react to it. Hang in there! If you sign up for the Panic program we'll help you plan you baby steps if you want. The panic diary is a useful tool.
Is there any way you can purchase your meds now to tide you over for a while longer?
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| Iwona |
05-05-2003 @ 12:45 PM |
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I would like to go back where I was before my Mum got ill. That is: I would like to be able to walk out of the house, do shopping in the local hypermarket without running away at the first thought of panic and be able to use public transport to get me at least to the downtown (which is about 20 stops from me), use the British library and go back home. That's it for now. But I have many things to win back.
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05-05-2003 @ 6:41 PM |
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anxiety and stress will be a part of our lives as long as we live. i dont expect to be that cured but i want to learn to live with it and not get mood swings or irritability. i want this feeling where in you just keep a smiley face all day like you dont have any problem to worry about. but its easier said than done. nevertheless, am still trying to make things positive for me, funny, but when im kinda stressed out, i think of flowers or the beach. or i keep my mind blank, or any color that i want to think about. this helps at times but more often than not i still get tired practicing this:) wheeew!
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