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Discussion Topic: The Goal of Social Life Improvements
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 Alexandra
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05-29-2004 @ 9:39 AM |
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Joined: May. 2004
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Lisa,
Thanks so much for that book! I think i will give it a go....yeah
it is tough...I would love to enjoy meeting up with people and
meeting new people more than i do now....and it is tough
realising that all the answers are within US...and that nobody
else is going to fix anything for us.
I think perfectionism is definitely where it comes from. And
always wanting to please others and be whatever they want
us to be...whether it be a new person we meet or somebody
who has actually "expected" stuff of us...like for you your
coach. Never wanting to disappoint people to the point
where we harm ourselves in the mean time.
Its really interesting actually and it is something I want to
understand more.
For me...even as a child i felt "watched" even at home, when I
was all alone...I would think thoughts like "imagine if so and
so from school was looking at me now" etc etc to the point
where I would feel all the anxiety that would go along with
them actually seeing me....its so amazing how powerful our
brains are. I definitely know that all my life through these
varying thoughts I have perpetuated my condition. I have led
my brain to believe that this level of anxiety is normal and the
thoughts I have are ok.
Thanks so much for replying to me...I feel like you truely
understand my position and just talking about this now is
making me realise so many things and gives me hope that I
won't always be like this. I think its fantastic that you have
moved ahead and I am going to try the same route!!
Thanks Lisa! I hope you are having a great day also!
Alex W
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05-30-2004 @ 2:40 AM |
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Joined: May. 2004
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HELLO,
I AM NEW TO THIS GROUP. I TOOK THE ANXIETY TEST BUT I HAVE ALSO BEEN SEEING A DOCTOR FOR OVER TWO YEARS AND I WAS JUST WONDERING IF ANY OF THIS REALLY DOES HELP. IT JUST DOESN'T CHANGE FOR ME AT ALL. I TAKE MEDICATIONS BUT I STILL CAN'T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT GETTING SICK AND THROWING UP. I CAN'T EVEN SEE MY OWN FAMILY OR ANYONE ELSE. I CRINGE IF I THINK SOMEONE HAS PULLED INTO MY YARD. I HAVE A HUSBAND OF 33 YEARS AND I KNOW THIS IS GETTING HIM DOWN. I FEEL YUCKY. I KNOW IN MY HEAD THAT I SHOULD BE NORMAL BUT IT IS LIKE MY BODY JUST TAKES OVER. I CAN'T DRIVE ANYMORE BECAUSE I GET SO NERVOUS I CAN'T THINK OR SEE. EVERYTHING IS GETTING SO BAD. I HAVE LET DOWN EVERYONE I KNOW AND I KNOW THAT SOUNDS LIKE A PITTY THING BUT I REALLY HAVE. WHEN I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING I CAN'T BELIEVE I HAVE TO GO THROUGH ANOTHER DAY. I DO BELIEVE IN GOD AND THAT ONLY MAKES IT WORSE THAT I CAN'T STRAIGHTEN UP. YES, I WOULD LOVE NOT TO BE HERE BUT MY STEP SON SHOT HIMSELF TWO YEARS AGO AND I SAW WHAT THAT DID TO THE FAMILY AND ALSO THERE IS GOD. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM SUPPOSE TO DO. I AM SO TIRED. MY FRIENDS THINK I HATE THEM AND SO DOES MY FAMILY BECAUSE I DON'T GO TO ANY FUNCTIONS. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HAD A LITTLE ANXIETY BUT NOW IT IS OUT OF CONTROL. IT JUST SEEMS TOO HARD TO EVER TURN INTO A REAL HUMAN AGAIN. I KNOW, POOR POOR ME. ANYWAY, IS THERE ANYONE THAT HAS FELT LIKE THIS AND FOUND A WAY OUT. I WOULD LOVE FOR THIS TO STOP. THANKS FOR PUTTING UP WITH MY MOOD.
ROBERTA
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06-13-2004 @ 5:41 PM |
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Dear Roberta...I feel very sorry for you...I feel your pain. You have an illness, and what ever you have tried has not worked much. For me some things get better and other things get worse from time to time. Your doctor is not helping you, maybe you need a new one, or different medications or something...because what you are doing right now is not working! If you try this site it may pinpoint some of your thoughts that lead to your condition, which may help you to get through life better, but please give it a try. I am now finished the program, and I have not had any panic for over one month. But I still get a little anxious from time to time. Now my depression is coming more into focus. But I will try to battle that too. I do believe in God too, a loving God who cares about us. But he has a plan, and until it is accomplished, we will have to continue to suffer the effects of mankind's imperfections. I know you feel even worse thinking that you are displeasing God, but he understands you have an illness, so he understands everything. When I was a teen, my love for God and thought of displeasing him is what kept me alive...maybe it's the same for you. Keep thinking about how you are pleasing him to just keep going and staying alive, to be able to help others in the future and get your life back...When I am on medications that help, I can do more with my life, and serve God better. So I keep trying to fight the fight. Please tell your doctor whatever you are doing is not working and you want to change. Or else see another doctor. It is a sickness, just like a broken leg, or cancer, or diabetes; sometimes this kind of illness also has physical components which need to be looked after, such as Thyroiditis, which I also have, or other illnesses combined with the anxiety. So please get checked out more....take care...
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